So to all the parents that may or may not read this: Do you know what the difference between advice and lecturing is?

The answer......Your attitude.

But wait, you may say, how does my attitude affect what im saying!?....well duh, your child percieves it differently.

For instance, if you sit down with your kid, and talk to them as equals....or even NOT TALK DOWN TO THEM, ya know the "You havent screwed up yet but you will so this is what you should do" attitude, you will find they are much more perceptive.

The difference is when it seems like a kid has no choice, we will make one for ourselves, to ignore you and do what we want. HOWEVER, if it is explained to us rationally, and with our freedom AND dignity intact we are more perceptive to the ideas given and will at least think about it rather than dismiss it outright.....just sayin.